My dog has needs, a lot of needs, and it is my job to meet them.
I am not saying he can do what he wants when he wants but I chose him to come into my home. He didn't have any say in that so I see it as my job to make him feel as safe, secure and happy as he can be.
Ding joined my family as a 5 month old pup from Battersea Dogs Home. As a younger pup he had gone to a family who couldn't cope with the little genius. A lot of his needs had not been met and his behaviour had gone a little wayward. I was looking for a new partner to train to do agility, trick train and be my faithful companion. He was everything I dreamt of and unfortunately a lot more.
Our first year together was not very enjoyable. Think every obsessive behaviour going car chasing, light chasing, biting, resource guarding, separation distress, barking.... but we gradually unravelled the puzzle.
"Beneath every behaviour there is a feeling. And beneath every feeling is a need. And when we meet that need rather than focus on the behaviour, we begin to deal with the cause, not the symptom"
Ashleigh Warner
My dog has a lot of needs. He needs to be outside for several hours a day. He needs to be with me as much as possible. He needs both mental training and physical exercise. He needs to have items to chew. He needs positive training to build value in behaviours I want to encourage. He needs clear boundaries so he doesn't make poor choices. He needs choice in being handled.
When these needs are met I have a happy relaxed dog who has become the most loyal companion, the love of my life. We have saved each other in tough times and I have never had such a strong bond with any other dog. This doesn't mean life is totally plain sailing but if behaviour starts to regress we know what to do to rectify the problem. We now know each other so well that I can foresee days that are not going to be ideal and put things into place to prevent stress building up.
What are your dogs needs? What order of priority would you put these needs in? When we ask ourselves these questions we will start to get great answers.