Do you remember the stories of Lassie, the Rough Collie?
Lassie was a TV Super Hero who saved people's lives, was loving and loved. She looked after her self and was a low maintenance. Never did she need training. Lassie was the dream dog who never put a paw wrong.
Did Lassie set unrealistic expectations for our pet dogs of today?
I never saw Lassie do anything people thought was wrong. She didn't demand bark in the house or bark at the doorbell, jump on visitors, pull on the lead, lunge and bark at people, dogs or cars. She didn't need constant attention and training. She really was a dreamboat companion.
I often wonder how many people get a dog imagining their pup will grow up into a Lassie?...
...and then, quite quickly into sharing their lives with a dog the stark reality hits...
...Not all dogs are like Lassie!
With expectations shattered it is easy to believe we have a 'difficult' dog that is not 'normal'.
Reality check! The story of Lassie was FICTIONAL.
You do not own a unicorn, you own a dog that is probably displaying normal dog behaviour. This behaviour may appear to be unacceptable to you but your dog doesn't know that carpets are not for chewing and leads are not to be pulled on.
And so the search begins for help and advise...
...But, how conflicting is the advise you read on FB or a Google search?! And if everyone gives differing advise who do you listen too?
Let's revisit our expectations (the ones Lassie helped us to set!) If Lassie was your dog idol then it is likely you want a dog that fits in, that is happy and most of all that you have a connection with. The connection goes deep and feels like you work so in sink you can read each others minds. A relationship built on trust and cooperation.
These are great goals so I advise you look for people who have built this relationship with their own dog. People who have worked through the same issues you have and succeeded. Sift through the comments that say "Oh I couldn't teach my dog that either so I did this instead". Or the ones suggesting intimidation, fear or pain. Trust was never built this way.
Having the best relationship is a great expectation to have when getting a dog. However the problem arises when we set unrealistic expectations, and this is what Lassie has a lot to answer for.
To expect our dogs to understand how to live in our world and fit in, know the 'rules' with no teaching or input is unrealistic. It is no good saying to our dog 'No' or 'don't do that' as this just creates frustration and disharmony. Instead we need to teach our dogs what to do instead. With the clarity of knowing what they should be doing we build a confident and willing partner.
So even if your own dog didn't start out as a Lassie we can still build an amazing relationship with our canine partners using kindness and consistency.
I feel privileged and honoured to share my life with Dingbatt my Collie. It wasn't always like that but he is my super hero just as I am his.
Want that with your dog?
Get in touch sarah@dingbattdogtraining.co.uk